Throwing a Baby Shower


Throwing a baby shower can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be.  With the right help and advice, it can also be a fun experience full of happy memories for you (yes, you) and mommy-to-be.

WHAT NOT TO DO when you throw a baby shower…Ten simple, really important tips for the hostess. Tips: 1-10

1. Don’t wait to spread the news! Get the invitations in the mail at least four weeks, prior to the baby party. This is particularly important if the shower is during a busy time of the year like, a holiday or summer season.

2. Don’t let things slip. If you’re in the know, about the sex of the expected baby, the name of baby, or another secret that the parents-to-be are saving as a surprise-be sure to keep it a secret. If necessary, keep the shower theme neutral, with no hints about what you know. 

3. Don’t try to do too much. Unless you’re planning a baby shower for 10 guests or less, recruit a co-host. It should be someone who is reliable and close to, mom-to-be. Don’t worry about someone stealing your thunder either. This shower is all about your, “guest of honor” having a wonderful time.

4. Don’t exceed your budget. This can happen from: over inviting, and then under estimating the number of RSVPs. Only invite the number of guests you are prepared to entertain. Avoid getting sucked into buying things your shower doesn’t need. Make a list of everything the party needs- then stick to that list. 

5. When you’re hosting a baby shower-it’s important to have a plan in place. It’s also important to follow that plan. If, you try to wing it, or throw it together at the eleventh hour- you’ll probably be disappointed with the outcome.

6. If you’re throwing a baby shower with games or activities, be sure they’re appropriate for the party. Avoid embarrassing mom-to-be and her loved ones, by planning games you’re sure everyone will enjoy.


  • Make sure you know how to give good instruction for any games or activities you plan to do. You may need to try your ideas out, ahead of time.

7. If, you choose to have a theme…stick with just that, one theme. N matter how organized you may be-blending themes can make your party look sloppy.

8. Have fun at your party, but not too much fun. Remember you’re the host. Move around the room, mingle, and make sure the guests are comfortable and enjoying themselves.

9. Be sure your guests have enough to eat and drink. Running out of food is a big, “no-no.” There should be no hungry guests at the shower; especially, the very pregnant guest of honor.


  • According to Miss Manners: If you serve non-alcoholic spirits, you must offer alcoholic beverages as well. Anything else, is considered rude.
  • This does not mean you need to spend a bundle at the liquor store. Guests should limit their intake, and the drinks should be light. Mix a pitcher of wine spritzers, shop a wine sale, or add a little Schnapps to a bowl of punch.

10. Don’t make yourself and co-host crazy striving for perfection. No doubt, throwing a baby shower is work, but it’s also a celebration. Hold yourself to your best standards, be realistic with your expectations, and keep smiling- even if, things don’t go quite as planned.

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